guileless

tiffanytsao — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 23:31:27 +0000

guile·less/ˈgīl(l)is/

Adjective:

Devoid of guile; innocent and without deception: “his face, once so open and guileless”.

I can spend my whole life improving without getting better than him or her,..

tiffanytsao — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 18:07:27 +0000

Save that for when you have tried.

Can I really do it? Lose…cry…but continue to advance…

Chihiyafuru ep 15

yeah, celebrate life milestone, I’ve changed so much AGAIN…..^-^

tiffanytsao — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:48:50 +0000

what do I mean? I’ve become more articulate in foremost thinking and then speaking. Also, I have learned to be better at interacting with people. Really listening means a real genuine millisecond to millisecond practice of empathy. You have to have a balance of empathy plus objective assessment of what they are saying, what they are showing with their body language, etc. Also, you must also assess the audience and change the conversation, accordingly, that way you keep them invested because you are invested likewise when you respond to them and choose not to ignore little signs that you sense from them.

Before, looking back with the new perspective I have now, I think I was too closed off and used thoughts to block off feeling and thoughts in a passive aggressive way almost. Such that instead of being pulled in by my own reactions to situations and people, I almost used my own reactions to pull myself out, even while I would think that I would like very much to be pulled in. It was part denial and part ignorance and part lack of insight and perspective and part like I was hypnotizing myself and conditioning my own thinking to be negative while lying to myself saying that I was positive and therefore other things out of my control were negative. I was also very very judging, and it was like since I am naturally, just reflexively, very sensitive to everything little detail, I cannot help but be inclined to put a thought and reasoning to some things and connections that I can make in real life, so instead of seeing deeper into people’s personalities, I was stuck at the details from what I see from their body language and choice of words and style of speaking and mannerisms and vocabulary and style of dress and stuff like that and I would dwell too much, if not only, on that…And anything that was out of the character that I imagined for them based on the details was something that always intrigued me…someone who is supposedly not a funny person making a joke.

How I’ve changed:

Read about social insights and character changes seen in Jane Austen’s Emma and Persuasion and Pride and Prejudice and watched the British miniseries for Emma and Persuasion and Pride and Prejudice and was impressed by the details and nuisances that the actors and writing and little body languages and situations of self-reflection in a social way of the main characters and their reactions to more minor characters character flaws and how they grew to acknowledge their own character flaws and how love was based mainly on both an appreciation and understanding of a person as well as a acknowledgement of the ability to self-reflect and change and seeing that in your partner as well so that you see a hope and are assured that you can influence your partner only positively because both are articulate in their feelings and passionate about life and change and positiveness.

Also, books like Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning and that Life is about a need for meaning and a search and pursuit of fulfilling meaning.

“As each situation in life represents a challenge to man and presents a problem for him to solve, the question of the meaning of life may actually be reversed. Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible. Thus, logotherapy sees in responsibleness the very essence of human existence.”

Books Books Books was I think the number 1 helper. Thanks to my Kindle I would read more and I found so much social commentary and deep and thoughtful words and sentences and situations, from both fiction and romance and personal development books, these authors not only inspired me to develop the ability to understand deep human emotion and complexity and beauty of personalities, to become more than just shallow, and also to become more aware and understanding and pretty in describing the things that I can sense, making very second of my experience and world full of nerve endings firing and continuing to be stimulating and interesting and revealing…

Also, I developed a newfound love for Harry Potter, the books, the movies, and the audiobooks. I watched the interviews with JK and the 3 main actors/actress and I found that their depth of experience and deep thoughts and insights expressed through their words, whether it was an insight into the life or if it was a sharing of laughs, it was also very very human and raw and real and responsive and interactive!

Also, was very into Seohyun!!! lol, soshified every day and also!!! Dangerous Boys and SNSD episodes was very much therapy for them as well as therapy for themselves. One quote I still remember is paraphrased: Putting a show of being cool or fake in order to be something you want people to think of you… is equal to neglecting to express your own emotions, and not being able to express your emotions will develop into mental illness. It will. And I believe it too because I see it in both the boys and myself and many people I know who are fake.

Seo Juu Hyun also changing~

What I Have Learned

When people say that people cannot change, they are wrong. People can change. It is extremely extremely difficult to; much easier said, thought of, tried, than actually done. The transformation is very mystic and I think it really really requires conscious effort to change yourself and a commitment to see things and a commitment to really try to understand them. People can change because I know without even the slightest shadow of a doubt that I myself have changed!!!!!!

peace,

Tiffany, Jan 2012

public speaking

tiffanytsao — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 17:18:54 +0000

if you know you will bring up something that will be somewhat repulsive to an audience, you should warn them beforehand that you will have to bring something like that up, so you will gain audience members who will be appreciative of your warning rather than losing audience members when you repulse some of them!

when you have emotions, you have to express them because if you don’t it becomes an illness.

tiffanytsao — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 17:30:47 +0000

treat a human not as a human, but as a personality.

tiffanytsao — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 09:47:38 +0000

personality > human

personality > genes and environment

The actions he …

tiffanytsao — Wed, 11 Jan 2012 17:25:44 +0000

The actions he does is to hide his feelings. These kind of people smile well.

I’m such a wanna-be intellectual; oh, how I wish I was born a child prodigy!

tiffanytsao — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 16:14:30 +0000

Stephen Fry and JK Rowling

http://www.mugglenet.com/jkr/interviews/bbc4.shtml

Realized: I’ve changed.

tiffanytsao — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 08:33:44 +0000

mark this point

turning point in my story

the main character, flawed, has changed…improved.

seohyun is daebak. Her paris diary

tiffanytsao — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 03:48:18 +0000

After giving us their “love” and “heartfelt” moments, the beautiful and enjoyable vacation in France came to an end. I don’t think there iss anything more relaxing and enjoyable than the world of music. And so, I’m very proud of being a singer. Moreover, I’m a member of SM… Girls’ Generation, fighting! Our hopes and dreams, fighting!

http://soshified.com/2011/07/2011-07-20-seohyuns-paris-diary-im-proud-of-girls-generation

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